Networking for
Shy People

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Everyone refers to the benefits of your network when you are looking for a job, but if you are shy or an introvert, the thought of engaging in long conversations can make you very uncomfortable.

This article gives you some practical tips on how to build working relationships on a daily basis that can help you in the future, without putting you in an uncomfortable position.

Networking for Shy People

Here’s the paradox: networking is by far the best way to learn about other companies and new job opportunities, but few job seekers want to do it.

The main reasons include:

  • Shyness
  • Introversion
  • Being uncomfortable talking to strangers

If you can relate to any of these reasons, then I have a tip for you:

Play to your strengths.


Chances are you’re a good listener. Capitalize on that. Develop a strategy that gets the other person talking while you listen.

You can do that by creating and memorizing six good questions.

These questions can’t be answered with a Yes or No. They are questions that everyone has an answer to, and allow the other person to talk easily about themselves.

Here are some examples:

  • What kind of work do you do?
  • How did you get into that field?
  • What do you like most about it?
  • What do you find most challenging?
  • What would make your job easier?
  • What are the big challenges facing your company in the next two years?

By having these questions memorized you will not feel like you will run out of things to talk about, because your conversation partner will do most of the talking, and you can use your listening skills.

Periodically reflect back to them what you hear, and ask follow up questions. If you do, two things will happen.

First, the more they talk, the more they think you are terrific.

Second, they will invariably ask how they can help you. That’s the graceful opening that allows you to ask about companies or job openings.

Besides listening, what are your other strengths?

If you’re not sure, try a career assessment. There are some powerful career management tools that can identify your top motivations and talents.



Henry Neils is President and Founder of Assessment.com the leading online career assessment company focused on helping employees and employers work together for their mutual benefit.

Millions of people have gained personal insight into their careers by using the tools, such as MAPP™ (Motivational Appraisal of Personal Potential), provided at Assessment.com



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